Who is Elisabet Barnes?
I am a coach and sexologist. I have a certification in sexology and couples therapy from Sexologiskolen in Copenhagen and I am currently working on my dissertation in Clinical Sexology. I am also a certified Dominatrix. It is important to me to offer an open-minded, inclusive, and judgement-free space, because I believe that everyone has the right to be themselves and to also be safe. I welcome all relationship constellations, sexual orientations, identities, and kinks.
I am passionate about health and well-being in general and about helping people to a healthy lifestyle. How we feel in ourselves has much to say for how we value ourselves, and how we function in relationships. I also want to encourage women to build more confidence and self-worth. Many women (and everyone else for that matter) grow up associating sex with shame and guilt. This is due to societal conditioning which often is something that people are not even aware of. We simply accept our beliefs as a truth: “it’s just the way things are”. When you see these beliefs in yourself and learn where they come from, you get the power to change them, to peel off the layers of shame and conditioning, and step into a new version of yourself. A version of you that is authentic, that knows her self-worth, that can set healthy boundaries and ask for what she wants. A version of you that actually knows what she wants! That is when you can enjoy sex and life, and choose partners who value you.
I haven’t always followed my passions in life. Like many others I took an “expected” path. I had a successful career in management consulting when my father suddenly passed away in 2010. This was my wake-up call. I realised that life is very fragile and that you can’t take the future for granted. This planted a seed in me to make a change in life. Wanting to live a more fulfilled and meaningful life I became a coach, entrepreneur and endurance runner. In running circles I am known for having won the gruelling 250km Marathon des Sables twice, amongst other extreme endurance events. I then, inspired by experiences in my own life, decided to expand my repertoire and venture into sexology and relationship coaching. If you are interested in running coaching, or to know about me as a runner, visit my dedicated running page here.
I was born and raised in Sweden, I have lived in Spain, the UK and Norway. I now live a nomadic lifestyle travelling the world, and I love to experience new places and cultures. I find that my authentic self does not easily fit into any of the moulds and boxes that society has in store for women specifically and for people in general. Not trying to fit myself into one I can be more free.
If any of the above resonates with you I would love if we could work together! You can contact me in Swedish, Norwegian, Danish or English. I do speak Spanish but it’s a bit rusty…:-)
Please note that I am not a psychologist, psychotherapist, or a medical doctor. I am a coach, certified sexologist, certified couples therapist, certified Dominatrix, and certified in Solution Focused Brief Therapy. I have a MSc in an unrelated topic and a second degree in Change Management. My core knowledge and experience is in the fields of healthy lifestyle, non-monogamous relationships, female empowerment, and BDSM/kink. Let me know what you want help with and if I believe you need a different competence than I can offer I will let you know.
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