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July 9, 2020  by Elisabet

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Two years ago already since we had this amazing da Two years ago already since we had this amazing day in Swedish Lapland with family and friends ❤️❤️❤️👰‍♀️🤵‍♂️💍 So much has happened since then and long may the adventure continue! 🤩 We can’t be together today but I look forward to a virtual dinner later with @sondreamdahl, my endlessly supportive and loving husband 🥰❤️ 📸 -> @iancorlessphotography . . . . . #wedding #anniversary #bröllop #couple #adventure #livelife #swedishlapland #bröllopsdag #celebration
This is my new mobile home and office! 🤩🚐 I This is my new mobile home and office! 🤩🚐 I don’t look at work as something that has to happen between certain hours, in a fixed location (sure some jobs do, but far from all). Thankfully Covid has really been a catalyst to help more people discover this and I am so grateful that it is becoming easier to work online for us who can and want to do so. I offer coaching and therapy online and it means that I can work with people who are based anywhere in the world. It is good for my clients and it is good for me! My work has been location independent for years, allowing me to travel and experience other cultures and places, which I love. 🌎💕 I find it fascinating though how we are often stuck in rigid ways of thinking about life and work. I often get comments like “We can do that call when you are home again” or “Thanks for taking time out of your holiday”. I’m hardly ever on holiday. I have just created a flexible lifestyle and made sure I have the digital resources I need to support that. I can set up my office anywhere. I don’t buy into retirement, 9-5 office working days, 4 weeks holiday a year etc. For me, life happens now. Not at the weekend, the holiday, or when I turn 65. It’s a work-life blend and because I work with what I love doing it’s great. If you book consultations with me to get help with a relationship, health, lifestyle or sexual matters, you will most likely meet me in my encrypted video conferencing room in cyber space. Perhaps with my cosy van as the backdrop! Welcome 🤗😀 . . . . . #sexologist #therapist #coach #digitalnomad #vanlife #nomad #lifeisnow #remotework #locationindependent #affinityvan
Do you use s€x toys with your partner(s)? 🤔 Do you use s€x toys with your partner(s)? 🤔 I believe that many people could elevate their pleasure by introducing toys in the bedroom. Particularly people in heterosexual relationships because research shows that a) there is a big gap between how often men vs women orgasm in heterosexual partner s€x (women much less than men) and b) few women can orgasm from penetration alone. Using s€x toys can for example bring the following benefits: 👉New or different types of orgasms 👉Have fun watching your partner with a toy or using one on them 👉Take pressure off women to orgasm in ways that might be difficult for them 👉Take pressure of men to be the performer who delivers the female orgasm 👉Introduce variation, playfulness and fun 👉Make it less intimidating to play with yourself in front of a partner 👉Encourage communication about what you like with new or existing partners 👉A way of enacting fantasies or role play 👉Take focus off “penis in vagina" (PIV) s€x as the centre act 👉Help in instances of illness, handicap or sexual dysfunction Some people see toys as something mainly for self-pleasure. They are great for that, but a fantastic addition to partner s€x. And remember, it doesn’t have to be a “couples toy”. It can be anything that works for you and that gives you pleasure. S€x is so much more than penetration but often we get stuck in unhelpful scripts and forget to experiment. So, think about how you can change things up and try something new! 💥🙌 I’d love to hear you experiences and thoughts on toys in the comments! 😘😀 What would you add to the list above? PS: In the latest episode of KLIMAKS podcast I talk to @maria_k_ebbestad @seksuell_selvtillit about sex toys (in Swedish/Norwegian). Listen in for more on this topic! 🎧🎙 @nytelse.no . . . . . #sexleksaker #sexleketøy #sexolog #sexologist #pleasure #sexpositivity #femalepleasure #sexuality #nytelse #couples
Hello! 👋 I’m back on here. Hope you’ve had Hello! 👋 I’m back on here. Hope you’ve had a great summer. 🌸☀️ I didn’t plan for a break but things just developed in that way. I think I needed to focus more on “being” and less on “doing”, and on embracing life outside of my phone for a while 😂 That said I completed my final exams and in addition to sexologist I am now also a certified couples therapist as well as supervisor. 👩‍🎓📜🎉😀 I also have a new mobile office which I’ll show you guys later. 🚐🤩 I’ll pick up talking about my passions and interests again some of which are: - reduce shame & stigma around sex & sexuality - for women to take ownership of their own pleasure - challenge religious, cultural & societal norms and beliefs that are damaging to people’s mental well-being, sexuality and relationships 🌸😘 . . . . . #sexologist #therapist #coach #sexolog #parterapi #sexpositivity #happiness #wellbeing #pleasure #femalepleasurematters
Can a neckless also actually be a functional s€x Can a neckless also actually be a functional s€x toy..? 🤔 You might recall my husband gave me this pendant for my birthday 🥰 In this episode of Toy Tuesday I tell you what I think about the Crave Vesper vibrator now I have tested it a bit 😜! Watch on YouTube via link in my bio 👀📺 . . . . . #crave #vibrator #jewellery #pleasure #femalepleasure #nytelse #sexologist #sexolog
👉 New blog via link in bio! 🔗 Researchers a 👉 New blog via link in bio! 🔗 Researchers and laypeople alike typically believe that monogamous relationships are the most optimal. For example it is common to believe that jealousy must be a much bigger problem when you can date or have relationships with more than one person. Like many beliefs surrounding consensual non-monogamy (CNM) this is not true. Typically these and similar beliefs have their roots in religion/culture and lack scientific evidence. This means that people who live in CNM relationships are often stigmatised by society. In a 2017 study researchers compared monogamous and ethically non-monogamous relationships and found that those who were practising CNM actually reported less jealousy and more trust than monogamous couples. If you are curious about this, and to learn more about 8 challenges and benefits that this lifestyle can present, hit link in bio for my latest blog! You’ll also find a link to the source research there. 🌸 What are your thoughts on jealousy and trust in relationships? . . . . . #relationships #couples #poly #polyamory #swingers #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #monogamy #jealousy #trust #parterapi #relasjoner
“Have you ever noticed that if you smile at peop “Have you ever noticed that if you smile at people, they will usually smile back? Try it.” Many people who come in couples therapy want to change something about their partner: “If only they stopped doing that, started doing this, or were more like that, things would be better”. What we easily forget is that there is more than one person in a relationship. How you act and what you say affects your partner. We mirror each other.🪞 Therefore your partner probably won’t change unless you also are prepared to look inside yourself and see what you can say or do differently. Maybe one person alone is not to blame for things like a toxic communication pattern, recurring conflict, stagnation, or lack of intimacy. If the responsibility is shared you can work on the relationship together 🌸 Give me a smile if you agree 😊 . . . . . #smile #smilemore #relationshipgoals #ittakestwo #couplestherapy #parterapi #mirror #smileback #sexologist
Battle of the Bullets is out! Head over to YouTube Battle of the Bullets is out! Head over to YouTube via link in my bio to find out how these compare! 👉 What are the similarities vs differences? 👉 Which one is the most quiet? 👉 What are the vibrations like? 👉 Which one gives the best orgasm??? 👉 Should you get one? Watch now via link in bio 👀📺 . . . . . #toytuesday #vibrators #bullet #bulletvibrator #femalepleasure #pleasure #nytelse #masturbationmay #sexologist #sexolog
In case you missed it here’s a friendly reminder In case you missed it here’s a friendly reminder that it’s Masturbation May along with some encouragement! 🌸🍆💦😘 👉 Self pleasure is a totally normal part of a healthy sexuality, whether you are single or in a relationship 👉 It has several health benefits, for example it’s relaxing 👉 It can improve partner sex because when you know how your body works and what you like, you can tell and show your partner, and take ownership of your own pleasure 👉 Children do it as part of normal exploration of their sexuality and should not be shamed or told off for it 👉 Your partner doesn’t care about you less because they masturbate 👉 God has nothing to do with it, so ditch the shame & guilt if you were burdened with that! . . . . . #selfpleasure #masturbationmay #sexeducation #sexed #sexologist #sexolog #pleasure #nytelse #selfcare
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